Relatives in a difficult time: How to support a patient after a cancer diagnosis while taking care of their own emotions.

Caring for a person who has received a diagnosis of oncology is one of the most difficult challenges facing loved ones. Cancer affects not only the patient, but also his family and friends, which is why it is so important to be able to support the patient while not forgetting about your own mental health. A cancer diagnosis shakes up the entire environment - for the patient and his loved ones, a new and difficult reality begins reality, full of emotional and practical challenges.

So how to help, being supportive, but not forgetting about yourself?

How to support an oncology patient?.

1. Open and honest conversation.

Talking about the disease can be difficult, But avoiding the topic can cause frustration for both the patient and the loved ones. The key is to speak directly and avoid empty platitudes like. "Everything will be fine" or "Think positive." Instead, one can say: "I'm with you, we'll get through this together" or "How can I help you? What do you need right now?"

Each person reacts to illness differently - some need conversation, others need silence. It is important to tailor support to the the patient's needs. Ask, listen, and sometimes just be there beside them, without imposing your way of dealing with emotions.

2. Silence and Presence.

Words are not always necessary. Sometimes shared silence, holding a hand, or simply being next to someone can mean more than talking. Presence gives the patient the feeling that he or she is not alone in this difficult situation. Silence can be extremely soothing, and a touch, a smile or a moment of of closeness often bring more support than words.

3. encouraging the use of therapeutic

A cancer diagnosis is a huge burden emotional. It is worth encouraging the patient to seek the help of a psycho-oncologist, who can help him or her cope with anxiety and stress. Instead of pushing, one can gently suggest: "Maybe talking to someone who can help you understand what you you are experiencing right now would be helpful?"

Relatives should also consider enlisting the help of a therapist to better manage their own emotions, which is is crucial to effectively support the patient.

4. Healthy communication in the family.

The disease affects the whole family, so it is important is to talk openly about your emotions. Sharing fear, anger or helplessness is not a sign of weakness, but of strength. It is also worth remembering to not focus exclusively on the disease. Including everyday topics in conversations gives the patient a sense of normalcy and participation in family life.

How to take care of your own emotions.

1. Give yourself the right to be weak.

Caregivers often feel they must be steadfast. This is a myth. You have the right to feel sadness, anxiety or fatigue. If you feel that situation is overwhelming you, get help from a therapist. Taking care of your own health mental health is essential to effectively support others.

2. Ask for and receive help.

Caregivers often assume all responsibility, which leads to exhaustion. It is important to learn to ask for support. You don't have to do everything yourself - delegate tasks and accept help from family or friends.

3. Find time for yourself.

Remember to get regular rest and do things that give you pleasure. Although caring for a loved one can consume most of your day, taking a moment for a walk, a book or a coffee can help you to emotional regeneration. Find time to take care of yourself - only then will you be able to able to support others.

4. Delegation of responsibilities.

Sharing responsibilities in patient care is crucial to maintaining balance. Each family member can contribute something valuable - arranging support for the sick person helps relieve the burden on the caregiver and gives him or her a moment to recuperate.

Support is key.

Supporting an oncology patient is not only concern for his physical health, but also for his emotions - both those of the patient as well as their loved ones. Remember that the best support you can be is when you you also take care of yourself. Going through this difficult time together requires mutual understanding, openness and the ability to take care of your balance mentally.

Author: Agnieszka Blanka Snarska