Female erotic maturity
The period of a woman's life, falling between the ages of 20 and 55, is conventionally called the fullness of womanhood. During this period, she realizes her role as a partner, marriage, motherhood, work, and society. This period also marks the fullness of developing femininity and erotic attraction.
It includes such factors as a woman's biological blossoming, the establishment of a partner relationship, the formation of a lasting emotional relationship, the joy of the maternal role, and in sexual life it consists of a deep and complete knowledge of one's own body map, the possibilities of sexual experiences and sensations, the creation of an optimal ars amandi adapted to the needs and expectations of the woman, making intercourse more attractive. A woman's erotic maturity is also full acceptance of herself, knowledge of her own self, the emergence of a system of values, attitudes and reflections linking sex and femininity with the purpose and meaning of life, with communication with the opposite sex. The concept of erotic maturity also includes the phenomenon of orgasm. Orgasm is an experience to which a woman gradually matures.
The peak of a woman's sexuality is reached between the ages of 30 and 35.
During this time, the integration of sex and sensuality with the desire for love, care and affection occurs in the woman. A successful partnership involves a wide range of accepted sexual behavior, accompanied by an increase in self-esteem related to the ability to love and the possibility of being loved. A woman's sexual role in adulthood, changes with hormonal changes in the monthly cycle and various aspects of a woman's sense of security. As I mentioned, many women reach the peak of their potential at the age of 35 and this level is maintained for many years. At the same time, during this period, the sexual needs of their partners begin to diminish. A man who previously considered himself full of masculinity and sexual needs, more sexually engaged than his partner finds that she begins to transform and become more sensual, when he is more likely to be thinking elsewhere, struggling with his career, tired. Women, on the other hand, have less of a burden of parenting activities, become more active, and have a variety of needs growing in them, including sexual ones. The basic physiological changes that occur during this period of life are associated with the need for longer periods of arousal, preliminary caresses. Men respond more slowly and often require longer arousal from their partner, who in turn becomes aroused more quickly and desires intercourse more. Conflicts on this background are not uncommon. Another source of tension is sometimes the need for adoration, for emphasizing attractiveness on the part of the partner. Both expect it. A woman's growing sexual needs are not accompanied by an increase in the frequency of intercourse. Often the opposite is true. Many women become accustomed to this situation and accept it. Others feel sexually unsatisfied and irritated because of it. Sometimes they start romances. A man, on the other hand, experiencing a decline in sexual vigor may feel this as a threat to his masculinity. He fears that a sexually unsatisfied partner will seek satisfaction with someone else. Hence comes the not-so-rare jealousy and aggressiveness of men.
The period around 40 for many women is a time of balancing their lives and tying it to an assessment of their own relationship.
If this balance is positive, then the partnership bond is strengthened. If, on the other hand, the balance is negative or "it's a two-way street," then the partner may be blamed for this state of affairs. This may be the reason for the development of a sense of "missed opportunity ", which could be a bond with someone else from the past. It seems to them that a marriage with this someone else would have been better, more satisfying. Bitterness about this worsens sexual relations between partners, especially when news reaches the woman that the one from the past has achieved more compared to her husband and is higher than him in the social, professional and material hierarchy. In contrast, the mature age of a woman in a successful, sexually and emotionally well-adjusted relationship is different. If a woman has the feeling that the companion of life is a loved and loving partner, it triggers in the woman a sense of joy, happiness, creative dynamism. There is a blossoming of all-round activity, including sexual activity. This period of life becomes the fullness of womanhood. In considering a woman's erotic maturity, one cannot ignore the sense of female attractiveness, which always occupies a lot of space in a woman's psychological life, starting in the early years of life. Some women maintain a lasting attractiveness until late in life, as they have a different genetic program and beauty type. Others, with the right efforts, are able to maintain their attractiveness for a longer period of time. Still others do not take care of themselves turning into the proverbial housewives, becoming gray and bland.
For many men, a woman's attractiveness is an important erotic stimulus.
As long as the partner is attractive to him, he will arouse desire. If a woman neglects efforts to maintain her own attractiveness, it is difficult to expect sexual activity from her partner. Women react similarly when their partner's attractiveness declines. As women age, they need to devote more time and energy to their feminine attractiveness. This attractiveness is by no means limited to the appearance of the figure, clothing or amount of makeup. It also includes coquetry, behavioral style, and expression. In many relationships, women, holding the helm of power in the home, slowly acquire a masculine style of behavior. Involvement in the livelihood and material problems of the family often leads to an over-practicing of life, which leads to a loss of romance, feminine subtlety, delicacy. While a businesswoman or manager in a skirt in everyday life may inspire appreciation, but not desire, and the momentary embodiment of feminine attractiveness at a New Year's Eve ball or charity event stimulates interest.... but mostly from other men seeing the woman in question in a festive package. Today's woman, burdened with many responsibilities, may find it difficult to take time for herself, but if she wants to maintain her own attractiveness, she must divide that time appropriately. Some women downplay this problem, believing that the bonds of marriage, a devoted family life, and spiritual values will ensure the constancy of a partner's affections, as well as desire. Sometimes faith works miracles. Unfortunately, overly rarely.
Andrew Depko
