The head rules: the psychological basis of delayed ejaculation
Delayed ejaculation - when arousal is, and the finale is missing.
Delayed ejaculation in men is a topic that is discussed is rarely discussed - assuming stereotypically that a man always "finishes" and does not needs prolonged stimulation at all for this.
Meanwhile, it happens that despite excitement, proper erection and prolonged foreplay, difficulties arise in achieving an orgasm. Some men need more time to it, others seem incapable of it. This can arouse frustrations, tension, and sometimes doubts about one's own sexual prowess sexual performance. It is not uncommon for this ailment to also lead to conflicts in relationships. relationships, resulting from lowered self-esteem in the partner/partner.
Delayed ejaculation can last from the moment a man begins sexual activity by the man, and also occur despite hitherto relatively trouble-free intercourse. It may be limited to certain types of stimulation, but can also occur in a generalized manner.
Orgasm is a process that requires not only arousal, but also a certain level of freedom and a reduction in control.
Possible causes for the occurrence of delayed ejaculation:.
Difficulties can arise when the following are prevalent: tension, stress, perfectionism, pressure to "do it right," difficulty in being focused on feeling. If there is excessive analyzing or "monitoring" the situation, the body may not be able to go into the climax phase.
Masturbation patterns and pornography
Sometimes the genitals are accustomed to very specific conditions of stimulation, for example: a certain amount of pressure, a specific pace, a selected type of visual stimuli.
As a result, the sexual response may be more difficult to achieved under other conditions.
The sexual area is closely linked to the relationship
Difficulties can arise when there is present in the relationship tension, insecurity, there are unexpressed conflicts, or sex becomes a a kind of obligation.
Sometimes the sexual response is inhibited where the emotional distance occurs.
Drugs and biological agents
Difficulty achieving orgasm may be associated with Use of antidepressants (especially those in the SSRI group), endocrine disorders Endocrine diseases, neurological diseases, metabolic diseases, consequences of certain surgical procedures.
These are just a few of the possible reasons. If you want to calmly consider which of these may apply to you - I invite you to to the office. Sometimes all it takes is a few consultations to be directed to the appropriate doctors, so as to look at the problem holistically.
If the difficulty is of a more complex nature - further therapeutic work is possible. Cognitive-behavioral therapy focused on flexing rigidly accepted socio-cultural norms and beliefs about sexuality provides an opportunity to look at it more broadly - not only from the perspective of the "bed" 😊.
It allows you to see how sexual life is affected:
- the way you think about yourself
- learned patterns
- norms brought up from the environment
- beliefs about what sex "should" be
Sessions are often held every two weeks giving space for quiet analysis and working at one's own pace.
In the office, this topic is not embarrassing. It is no taboo topic anymore. It's part of your health, and an important part of your quality of life and relationships.
